Mental Health Awareness Week: 13-19 May 2019

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As parents we interact with other parents and children on a daily basis, this is obvious but why is this statement so important?

Did you know 50% of mental health problems are established before the age of 14? (1).

The article below will be focusing on ways we as parents can help spot signs and manage mental health in children. However, it is also important to understand that 68% of women and 57% of men with mental health problems are parents. (2) Statistically, this means over half of the parents we speak with will be suffering in some way from mental health.

The support structure for addressing mental health has been growing year on year with the charge being led by the Mental Health Foundation (MHF) with additional support and awareness being generated from numerous charities and campaigners such as MIND

So what can WE do?

Supporting Children

It's important to understand that 50% of mental health problems are established by the age of 14 and 75% by age 24 (1). Understanding this can help parents and peers spot the signs early in order to effectively manage and support anyone struggling. 

Alarmingly, 70% of children and young people who experience a mental health problem will not have the appropriate intervention at a sufficiently early enough age.

So what can impact mental health?


It is normal for children to feel a bit worried about exams or projects, especially when under pressure from school or family. Exam stress can cause children to feel anxious or depressed, and this can affect behaviour, sleeping and eating habits. 

If you think your child may be feeling the stresses of school work or exams, there are things they can do:

1) Let them know they can talk to trusted friends and family and tell them if they are struggling. These people can be there to support and encourage them and offer a listening ear. Tell them not to be afraid of opening up.

2) Ask for help. Think about all the practical support they need. And that they are allowed to ask for help. Talk through their concerns together and with their teacher/tutor who can let them know what support their school can offer them.

3) Get them to try finding a study group, or start their own. Working through problems with other students can be a nice way to keep a social life going and boost morale. 

Sometimes children may feel like parents or family are putting pressure on them to succeed, it can help to reassure them and understand what they feel able to achieve, and whether their expectations are different to yours. They could also talk to a teacher they trust about the pressure they are under.

Some school problems which might affect your child could include:

1) Finding schoolwork difficult, or having problems concentrating in class if others are noisy and disruptive

2) Tricky relationships with friends and friendship groups

3) Not getting on with teachers, feeling like you are labelled as 'trouble'

Young minds offers advice on spotting the signs and symptoms of doubled children at school.


If you notice a sharp change in behaviour or disposition, it's potentially a sign that a child is being mentally or physically abused or bullied. Abuse at a young age can affect the way children interact with their peers and teachers. If this is left to develop, it risks the chances of children not developing the social skills they need to help support themselves in later life. If you notice a change in behaviour, and the child hasn't said anything to you, there are a number of steps you can take to best manage the situation.

1) Continue to talk to the child - Most children who are being abused or bullied will find it difficult to talk about it. By having ongoing conversations the time may come when they're ready to talk. 

2) Keep a diary - Keeping a record of your concerns and the development of situations is a powerful way of building a case and aid in spotting patterns or deteriorating behaviour. 

3) Speak openly to the child's teacher, sports coach or other dependable source - The professionals who interact with the child regularly may have their own thoughts and observations. Speaking to them about the situation may help raise their awareness and spot the signs, or confirm any changes in behaviour you may have.

4) Get another perspective - Talking about these instances to a reliable 3rd party may bring clarity or further insight into the situation. The NSPCC is a great source should you require professional advice on a situation.

5) Report it - If you feel the instances warrant reporting, you can do so by calling the NSPCC's helpline on 0808 800 5000. If you wish to remain anonymous while reporting your concerns you are within your rights to do so. 

Read more about how to spot the signs of bullying 


The University College London (UCL) has found correlations between the time spent on social media and depression. This study found that 38% of 'heavy' users, defined as spending more than 5 hours a day on social platforms, are likely to suffer from severe depression and anxiety while the same symptoms are found in 12% of 'light' users.

It's incredibly important for a child to grow up in a supportive and healthy environment. With a growing number of hours spent online, the digital landscape and the individuals they interact with are just as influential in the child's mental state. 

Last year we published an article on cyber-bullying and how to both spot the signs and help manage it. Read more about CYBER BULLYING and how to prevent it.  

With young people spending so much of their time on these social platforms, there are many factors that can be affected by this, including confidence issues, general exposure to negative online behaviour and importantly sleep patterns. So what can be done to manage and support them?

Sleep is important. 

Researchers found that depressive symptoms appear in a higher number of children who reported poor sleep patterns. Proportionately it takes longer for heavy social users to fall asleep, and there are further reports of their sleep being disrupted. (3)

1) Limit evening use of phones, tablets, computers and even television watching. Ensure they are not used within the last few hours before going to bed. The main reason for not using electronic devices before bed is that it exposes you to the blue-and-white light given off by the phones' screens, preventing the sleep-inducing hormone melatonin from being released by the brain, making us alert instead of sleepy. (5)

2) It's been found that children keep their phones in very close proximity during the night. (4) Which can be tempting to continue usage after lights out. For younger children, ensure they don't go to bed with their device - or make sure its turned off and out of reach. 

3) For older children, if they use a modern iPhone it's likely they have the "bedtime" feature. This is great because it disables notifications on their phone whilst making the alarm feature offers a softer and more natural wake up call. 

4) Get into a routine, ensure your child has a wind-down period, a specific bedtime and a chance to talk about their day - specifically during weekdays. This gives your child the opportunity to relieve any tensions or worries before going to sleep. 

There are more options available to limit or monitor their use, from apps which can control screen time remotely to in app features such as ensuring YouTube's 'autoplay' feature is turned off

If you're unsure how much sleep your child should be getting, the NHS has provided a great resource to give you those answers.


Celebrities and marketeers contribute to the visuals our children consume view and benchmark against. These can form unhealthy lifestyles as children try to emulate what they see. 

There have been numerous campaigns over the last few years as the use of manipulated images have increasing effects on our children. Campaigns run by self-care and beauty brands such as Dove have started a push towards more naturalistic photos to be used in marketing within their self-esteem project. 

This is great to see because these factors are so out of our control that we need the big corporates to lead by examples. 

But what can we do? 

1) Explain to your children about the images we see in the media - how a lot of them are airbrushed and photoshopped to only portray what they think the public wants to see. The same goes for platforms such as instagram, where vloggers and influencers portray idilic and perfect lives. There are many posts and blogs which uncover the truths behind instagram posts and airbrushed images of celebs, and many inspirational celebs who are against it, which is worth showing your child if they are feeling under pressure or body conscious. 

2) Teach them about being healthy. Being healthy is the the most important lesson your child can take on board. Adopting a healthy lifestyle and eating habits is fundamental for our children. Not only will unhealthy diets that include bad fats and sugar affect their weight as they get older, but it affects their teeth, skin and even behaviour.

Children don't have the same knowledge of food and exercise, and it can be hard for them to make healthy choices. Therefore, as parents we should ensure that they understand eating the RIGHT food is better than eating NO food. Change 4 Life house a wealth of information directed at family food education. We believe understanding the facts around food will greatly impact the way we interact with it, and develop a healthy relationship with what we're eating. 

3) Lead by example - you may not think it, but if you have ever stood on the scales and reacted badly to the number staring back at you then you're inadvertently showing your children that weight is something to be scared or ashamed of. Be body positive in front of your children, and if you feel you need to do something to get in shape then make it fun and get the whole family involved - Why not start by finding your local 'Park-run' event?

'Uniquely Me' Is a tool by Dove to help build positive body confidence in your child

You can find loads more guides and articles online, including the recommended daily intake

More Help:

While the information below is focused on offering support to others, if you identify the need to seek advice or treatment for yourself we would encourage you to speak to a professional. Advice and support can be sought from one of the following channels: 

Young Minds Parents Helpline – call 0808 802 5544 Fighting for young peoples mental health.

Samaritans 116 123 - Emotional support

Rethink  0300 5000 927 (calls are charged at your local rate) Different types of therapy and medication, benefits, debt, money issues, police, courts, prison, your rights under the Mental Health Act.

Childline 0800 1111 (UK) / 1800 66 66 66 (ROI) Non-profit focused on developing a society free from child abuse

Teenline  1800 833 634 (ROI) Teens helping Teens overcome issues through relatable circumstances. 

CALM 0808 802 58 58 (London) / 0800 58 58 58 (UK) A leading a movement against suicide, the single biggest killer of men under the age of 45 in the UK.

The Mix 0808 808 4994 (UK) Support for under 25's dealing with situations from early parenthood, sexual health, bullying and more.

Additionally, if you're a mum to be or in the first year of parenthood Maternal Mental Health provides lots of information to support you through the perinatal period. 

You can also find more local informal support groups through Netmums


1 Kessler RC, Berglund P, Demler O, Jin R, Merikangas KR, Walters EE. (2005). Lifetime Prevalence and Age-of-Onset Distributions of DSM-IV Disorders in the National Comorbidity Survey Replication. Archives

of General Psychiatry, 62 (6) pp. 593-602. doi:10.1001/archpsyc.62.6.593.

2 Royal College of Psychiatrists. (2016). Parental mental illness: The impact on children and adolescents. Information for parents, carers and anyone who works with young people. Retrieved from


3 Yvonne Kelly, Afshin Zilanawala, Cara Booker, Amanda Sacker. (2018).Social Media Use and Adolescent Mental Health: Findings From the UK Millennium Cohort Stud. Retrieved from

4 Lemola S. Perkinson-Gloor N. Brand S. Dewald-Kaufmann J.F. Grob A. Adolescents' electronic media use at night, sleep disturbance, and depressive symptoms in the smartphone age. J Youth Adolesc. 2015; 44: 405-418

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